Lying in Islam.
Lizzie talks to an agnostic man about lying in Islam, and shares the Gospel with him. S3:28: Let not the believers take disbelievers for their friends in preference to believers. Whoso doeth that hath no connection with Allah unless (it be) that ye but guard yourselves against them.
Tafsir ibn kathir on Sura 3:28 : “…meaning (…) believers are allowed to show friendship to the disbelievers outwardly, but never inwardly. For instance, Al-Bukhari recorded that Abu Ad-Darda’ said, “We smile in the face of some people although our hearts curse them.”
LYING IS PART OF ISLAM’S NATURE as Muhammad himself taught in his Hadith
Ibn Shihab said he did not hear that exemption was granted in anything what the people speak as lie but in three cases: in battle, for bringing reconciliation among persons and the narration of the words of the husband to his wife, and the narration of the words of a wife to her husband (in a twisted form in order to bring reconciliation between them).Reference : Sahih Muslim 2605 a ,In-book reference : Book 45, Hadith 130 , USC-MSA web (English) reference : Book 32, Hadith 6303
From the hadith above we notice there are 3 conditions in order for muslims to be permitted to lie a) Lying in battle/war b) Lying to reconcile the disputed parties c) Lying toward our spouses .
Explanation of Point (a), Battle / War doesn’t have to be necessarily ‘military’ but ‘the war’ also can be implemented ‘socio-politically/culturally’ since for muslims The world will always be considered as war territory ( Dar’ul Harb) not until the entire world with their civilizations be subjugated under the Sharia. Deception can be used both in the so called militaristic battle and also in socio-political/cultural battle , usually the socio-political/cultural deceptive approach is being used when Muslims are on the disadvantage position (eg. being a minority in non-muslims country or even being a muslims majority country yet still quite dependable upon Western countries’s economy) , another implementation especially in ‘cultural & education’ scope is on the realm of Cultural Debate between Muslim-NonMuslims , debate also means war for them and here again Muslims have absolutely no problem and no guilty conscience to lie to their teeth straight in front of the faces of the non-muslims when defending Islam because again TO LIE IN WAR IS PERMITTED by Muhammad as being stated in Saheeh hadith.
Explanation for point (b) Reconciling the disputed parties ,there are many implementations could be produced from this precept however the primarily implementation is actually still related to point (a) , because , the most difficult side that muslims find hard to reconcile is actually their own enemy ( and again especially when the enemy is on the upper hand ) , to reconcile is also can be seen as TO PACIFY meaning almost like a manipulative salesman who sells used broken wrecked car for a living, a muslims usually will just say anything to convince their enemy that they are harmless while within their ‘loving’ muslims’s hearts they wholeheartedly curse the non-muslims.
DCCI is spot on to expose muslims hypocrisy as being stated in Surah 3:28 along with its Tafseer ( by Ibn Kathir) about the ‘commandment’ from Allah for muslims to become LYING HYPOCRITE whenever muslims are in ‘weak position’ , to nicely smile toward the non-muslims but curse them wholeheartedly within every muslims’s heart. By the way the same idea is also stated in the other two major tafseers ( al-Jalalyn and Ibn Abbas) when explaining Surah 3:28
Explanation of point (c) , the ordinance of Permission for Lying to the wife of a muslim and its most common usage as an effective tool to practice Polygamy , are rarely exposed in the Western society . Logically speaking if we just use plain common sense we certainly should admit that it would be quite difficult for te husband to practice polygamy toward the 1st wife without any dishonesty especially when in the stage of attempting to get the ‘extra’ wife. Since the 2nd wife, 3rd and so forth are not pretty fairies falling from heaven and in order to have ‘another wife , a married muslim man should seek and find the potential candidate first where logically it’s quite difficult to conduct ‘seek and find’ process under the full knowledge of the 1st wife , it would be sort of awkward not to say retarded for a woman to know and approve her husband to ‘seek’ any potential candidate to be his 2nd wife . The point is WITHOUT THE LYING ELEMENT CERTAINLY ANY ATTEMPT TO PRACTICE POLYGAMY WOULD TEND TO BE INEFFECTIVE.
I personally like to define two major types of Polygamy in Islam :
First type, the one i like to call it as Semi-Dishonest Polygamy, here the husband cheats and being dishonest toward his wife especially in the process where the husband seek the candidate for 2nd wife however at the time the husband has finally found the candidate and the wedding for his 2nd wife has already been planned firmly , only then the husband finally would become honest and the 1st wife would be notified ( usually in very short notice nearing the wedding day) . Often at this stage the 1st wife is confronted with option choosing between divorce or accept her husband 2nd wife .
Second Type, the one i personally call it as Fully Dishonest Polygamy , here the 1st wife receives no information AT ALL about his husband in having another wife and the secrecy should be kept FOREVER or til death. This kind of polygamy is legally accommodated in Sharia through mechanism called Misyar marriage for Sunnis , and Mutah marriage for Shias.
Misyar and Mutah both are contractual marriage where there will be no obligation such as child financial support , etc, after the contract ended , even within the marriage contract itself the obligation is quite minimum for the husband . Both types of marriage usually are being performed IN SECRECY , no document nor legal papers necessarily needed , no need to announce it to the people , the main requirement is only the Mahr or PAYMENT from the husband to his ‘contractual wife’ meaning it’s just almost as the same as paying a prostitute .
The main difference between Misyar and Mutah is Muta has due time and the due time is specifically mentioned within the agreement while for Misyar it has no due time however the husband in Misyar marriage has absolute right to divorce the wife WHENEVER the husband wishes . Another but not so significant difference between Misyar and Mutah ; in Misyar it’s not permitted for the husband to live in the same house with his contractual wife meaning the husband is permitted to visit regularly but not for staying in a lengthy time. From this explanation our common sense tell us that Misyar and Mutah are just some sort of ‘Halal’ Fornication or Halal Prostitution’ .
The Sunnis practices Misyar marriage when :
1) They wanna practice Polygamy having 4 wives at max , but don’t wanna get caught by their 1st Wives , this is the major reason in most cases.
2) They wanna have wives MORE than just four women , in this case if even after having openly known four legal wives still the husband hadn’t satisfied and couldn’t restraint his desire then Islam would accommodate this sexual need through Misyar where the husband could marry as plenty as he’s able to SECRETLY without any knowledge of his four legal wives.
Misyar marriage for Sunnis circle in majority is acceptable and only few insignificant minor opinions attempt to reject it .
In Misyar the element of LYING (so the 1st wife will have no awareness about the ‘extra’ marriage) is very essential especially when we also acknowledge that one of characteristic in Misyar is , it’s practiced in secrecy .
Finally in connection with Contractual marriage, we can conclude LYING IN ORDER TO SATISFY ONE’S SEXUAL DESIRE IS FULLY PERMITTED in Islam .